My hubby comes home from work everyday and drinks 2-3 glasses of wine a night. He says there is nothing wrong with it, and that Europeans do it, and it is just fine.

But I think he is ADHD, and uses the alcohol to relax. The doctor said he is too old to take ADHD medications, since most people his age have learned to cope with the nervousness. So he refuses to do anything.

His whole family is hyper and nervous, and going to their house is insane. His mom starts drinking wine at 4, but doesn't stop until 9. His grandmother is an alcoholic and nuts. His dad only drinks occasionally. The whole family grew up drinking with dinner, I believe.

Should I be worried about him? I do admit I come from a family that NEVER drinks so maybe I am overreacting? When does someone become an actual alcoholic?

It sounds like he is okay. If he doesn't drink to get drunk and stops at a reasonable point, I don't think the amount of wine he is drinking is a problem. If he drinks it all at once and gets loud and abusive or can't stop once he's started, those are danger signs.

I believe it is when they cannot control it and it interferes with their whole life (professional, personal, etc.). But it may be sooner than that. I don't have any experience with alcoholics.

Call AA and ask them!

you mentioned about europe so cz i am from greece i think i should answer!it is true that we here are used to drink a lot and that does not make us alcoholic!many people r used to drink everyday some glasses of wine just to relax from work and anxiety!i understand that u r worried as your family did not drink and his family has drinking problems,but in his case what he does is sth normal!of course he has to make some medical exams once in a while but if he keeps it there he won't have problems!!!you should know that some glasses of wine are very good for the heart!!

Does he act mean when he is drinking? I know it is suggested that people drink a glass of red wine with dinner for heart disease... if he acts different it may be a problem... also- how long has he been doing this? Is this a new habit?